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Video: Civil Marriage: Modern Realities
Civil marriage: modern realities
If you think about it, a civil marriage is very convenient. Now even those who are well over 30 are in no hurry to get married. Maybe this confirms once again that their relationship is not serious, and they do not want to take on obligations. According to statistics, now the average age of marriage for women is 25 years, and for men - 27 years.
In life, not everything is so perfect. They did not have time to meet - get married, have children, and then scandals, quarrels, divorce and division of property. Someone will go on the next search, and someone has a child in their arms. Here is a significant plus of civil marriage - no one owes anything to anyone, because where are the official papers and confirmations?
Is marriage an experiment in relationships?
All relationships go a long way towards mutual understanding, because love in the family is not enough for a couple to live together. In marriage, you cannot concentrate on some petty problem and "nag" each other with this, take everything easier. Often couples in love want to experiment and check the stereotype that after the registry office everything changes. Yes, it changes, but only if the couple did not live together for a day. They begin to have domestic disagreements, lack of attention and common interests. Fear of these problems pushes couples to live in a civil marriage.
Girls believe in different fairy tales, but not in a fairy tale about an ideal marriage. Sometimes they foresee the emergence of problems in advance and prepare for themselves a secure future, or at least a life without poverty. Statistics confirm that representatives of the fair sex most often become initiators of marriage contracts. What if he finds another and I'm left with nothing?
Once a man was considered a breadwinner in the family, but this position has long become outdated, because now both spouses are earning money for the family. Such a charter applies not only to making money, but also to housework. Nowadays, the wife can take out the trash, and the husband can cook dinner, clean the house, or go on maternity leave so that the wife does not risk her career. All this can be foreseen while still in a civil marriage.
Why is legal marriage so scary?
Gametophobia is the fear of marriage. Many couples in a civil marriage suffer from it. Most often, a registered marriage is frightening with an additional burden not only on the psyche, but also on physical health. Many believe that in a civil marriage it is not entirely necessary to clean the apartment right now, wash the clothes or cook a fancy dinner. You can do it later, no one has to specify. Another fear of marriage is additional costs. Of course, you live for yourself on the sly, what you wanted is what you bought.
These modern fears prevent many lovers from taking their first step towards legal marriage. Nobody wants to change the usual way of life and life style, but, on the other hand, if you love each other so much and have lived for a long time, maybe it's time to be married?
Author: Yana M. (specially for Calorizator.ru)
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