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Video: If Marriage Becomes Boring
If marriage becomes boring
By boredom in marriage, many mean a bunch of problems that no one tries to solve, and does not want to. Women are very often fed up with everyday life and the fact that every day is the same: cooking, washing, cleaning, caring for children. The husband does not try to help, ignores, the couple does not go anywhere together, everyone is busy with their own, but not common affairs. The woman so wants attention and care, but instead everything happens in a vicious circle: cooking, washing, cleaning … What to do? Do not get divorced!
Most often, the most common problem is the lack of attention from the wife and from the husband. You remember how you once just walked along the park or embankment, and now your evenings are spent near the TV monitor or in the kitchen by the stove. There are a lot of such examples. If such situations are familiar to you, then you need to start acting - eliminate the lack of attention. The reason for it may be that you are psychologically tired of each other, lost the emotional connection that was at the early stage of the relationship.
When people just start dating, they have a sparkle in their eyes, love, admiration for each other, an emotional connection appears, they believe that this will be forever. But this is not so, over time the couple gets used to each other, everything becomes so familiar.
It is believed that the relationship of people who love each other, over time, become like work. The only difference is that instead of wages, you get consent and understanding. One thing can be affirmed boldly: you cannot let the development of relations take their course. You need to work on them so that the spark that brought you together is preserved.
To restore the old emotional connection, you need to restore friendships. Get together more often, discuss problems, news and, of course, dreams. Physical contact will also be important here: kisses, hugs and intimate relationships. The husband is going to work - take the trouble to kiss him goodbye on the cheek or lips. Trust me, he will go to make money with a different mood.
Wives should not ignore their husband, ask how are you, what's new at work, discuss experiences and problems so that he does not feel unnecessary. Remember where you went, as soon as you started dating, what your favorite places were, try to visit them again.
The second reason for misunderstanding may be a lack of new sensations, emotions and events. The atmosphere in the family may be positive, but the husband or wife wants something new. If your significant other wants to leave everything as it is, then try to convince her, interest her.
Most often, such a desire for new things visits young mothers. They took care of the child for a long time, it takes a lot of strength and energy, and there is almost no free time.
But now your baby has grown up, and you can easily take time for yourself: drawing, dancing, yoga or visiting the fitness center. Discuss your aspirations with your husband and find a common passion. Also ask your husband for help in cleaning and cooking: both useful and pleasant.
New sensations and emotions can be replenished with pleasant surprises and gifts for each other. Think about what your husband or wife has been dreaming of for so long? Maybe it's time to bring it to life? Love notes in the morning can be very original surprises. After them, you will only add strength and charge for the whole day, you will constantly think about each other and miss. Planning a joint travel and vacation is also a good option. Consider the wishes of each other and listen to the opinions of both parties.
Summing up, we can say that any pleasant insanity can become a return ticket to the old, happy life. Take risks, use your imagination, do not deprive you of attention, and you will definitely succeed.
Author: Zhanna Sh. (Specially for Calorizator.ru)
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