How Not To Get Lost On Your Loved Ones

It costs us nothing to offend a person. This seems to be part of the norm these days. We regularly encounter rudeness during the day: on the bus, in the store, on the street or in line. They yelled at us - we are being rude to someone, and so on in a chain. But this rudeness will not hurt someone, and someone will worry about it for a long time.

Most often, it is native people who fall under the hot hand. How not to offend loved ones? This question is relevant today. Sometimes we offend them, sometimes they us, and we do it just as if a day could not pass without it.

For example, you promised to call your parents, but during an eventful day you just forgot about it. They wait, hope, and then it seems to them that it is easiest for you to forget about their existence. In order not to create unnecessary resentment, do not forget to keep the promises you made to your family.

Psychologists have noticed that we want to teach wisdom, read morals, and shame our loved ones. Of course, a stranger will not even listen to you. The native will listen, and then he will worry. Why is it that we start to take care of our loved ones only when trouble is on the doorstep? Remember, your family members need support, kind words and attention. Sometimes it’s enough to just listen to the person to be grateful to you.

Our trouble is that we are trying with all our might to please the people who surround us, with our relatives we are what we really are. You need to know that we can be different, you just need to think quite a bit about what we are with our relatives, what they are with us. Would you like this attitude towards yourself? “Yes” in this case can only be answered by those who know how not to fall for their loved ones.

We all expect to be respected, loved, appreciated, sometimes regretted, to be remembered. To get a return, you need to give something yourself. Start with yourself, and the world around you will change, believe me!

We know that a loved one will understand and forgive us. And we pour out the anger accumulated during the day on them. This happens unconsciously, out of habit. In some ways, perhaps, the relatives themselves are to blame. So they allow you to behave like that with them. How do you learn to control yourself? How not to offend relatives?

If you like to argue, know: there is always a person who knows much more than you. And after the dispute, only grievances remain, while the opinion of the disputants will remain with them. Well, is it worth defending your position in this case, if you see that the interlocutor cannot be persuaded?

Our trouble is that we try with all our might to please the people who surround us, with our family we are what we really are

Psychologists believe that we most often take offense at those whom we love deeply and are most afraid of losing. Our main enemy is selfishness. Please note that it is selfish people who most often offend people around them. After all, everything they have is built on "I." They need the world to revolve around them, and when something does not go as planned, they break down on loved ones, blame everyone around for their troubles.

Our main advice is - before you say hurtful words in response, think, count to ten. Finally, try to part with selfishness, at least in your relationships with family. We were brought up so that we feel sorry for the stranger's uncle, we are not rude to strangers, we are usually polite with those around us. But we don’t think about what words to say to our loved ones. A word thrown carelessly is like a nail driven into the soul, it is possible to pull it out with your apologies, but the hole will remain there. Word can hurt more than deed.

How to learn not to offend your loved ones? You need to become a little more attentive, kinder, you need to learn how to listen, and hear what they want to tell you. After all, really close people do not want to harm you.

Only a very strong and wise person will be able to restrain himself in time, will not be able to do without offenses and insults, without pretensions and rudeness. Be strong and wise, do not offend your loved ones!

Author: Zhanna Sh. (Specially for Calorizator.ru)

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